How Do I Handle This As A Peaceful Parent? No. II
Tuesday, June 16th, 2009How Do I Handle This As A Peaceful Parent? No. II
Now that my son has hit adolescence he is even less communicative than ever. No matter what kind of question rancho cordova motorcycle recyclers I ask him his answers are monosyllabic. ‘Fine’, ‘nothing’ or ‘I don’t know’ seem to be the only answers I can get out of him. Any suggestions on how I can talk with my son again instead of feeling like I am talking at him?
Isn’t it amazing how one day you feel happy about the kind of relationship you have with your child and the very next day your child becomes mute, treating you as if you are the enemy. What’s happened? You review your own actions in the previous twenty-four hours and can discover nothing to provoke such treatment by your child. And yet, you are no longer on his list of trusted confidants. Just as mysteriously your child’s distant treatment can change back to happy and connected behaviors over night. Ah the joys of living and loving teenagers.
Teenagers have the same genetic instructions for safety, love and belonging, power, fun and freedom that they did when they were children. How they attempt to meet these needs changes. \Expert Witness Referral\ And the priority of the needs to be met also changes.
During childhood, a child will rely on her need for love & belonging predominantly. But during adolescence this changes. Now power becomes the need our children rely upon, especially with us.
At the same time our
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